MESSAGE #1320 ACE!

Today’s message is especially dedicated to the great Julie Martin-Kolb. Happy Belated Birthday to a passionate tennis mom!

I love hitting aces while playing tennis, but there is an ACE I like even more…

ACE—Acting Changes Everything

The other day I was watching some tennis players and when they hit a good shot, they had great body language and looked extremely confident. But when they missed a shot, they had terrible body language and looked extremely negative.

Here’s what Rafael Nadal and Roger Federer know…

You don’t have to act how you feel. You can feel tired, negative or not into it, but you can still ACT like you are energetic, positive and totally into it. The best part is that when you start acting like the player you want to be, you start feeling like the player you want to be.

Most people have it reversed.

MESSAGE #1317 FIFTY OUT OF SEVENTY-THREE

Greg Maddux was one of the greatest pitchers in baseball history.

Maddux once left a game with a 2-1 lead, in the seventh inning. The reliever gave up a run to tie the game, which ruined Maddux’ chances of getting the win; frustration for any pitcher. But when Maddux was asked after the game, “How did it go out there tonight?” his reply was, “Fifty out of seventy-three.”

What does this mean?

It means he threw fifty strikes out of seventy-three pitches.

Maddux knows the secret. The key to being a successful is to focus on your execution, not the results. If you stick with your plan and execute properly, your job is done. The beauty of this is, you will get better results. On the other hand, if you focus on things out of your control, like results, the media, or the approval of others, you will decrease your chances of getting the results you want.

What was Maddux’ mantra?

“One at a time.”

How can you argue with someone who won 355 games in his career?

*BONUS FACT*
Greg Maddux faced 20,421 batters in his career and only 310 of them saw a 3-0 count (approximately one in every three starts).

MESSAGE #1314 HERE’S TO YOU, BOB RYLAND

Speaking with Bob Ryland at Arthur Ashe Youth Tennis and Education in Philadelphia

As we close out Black History Month, my thoughts are with a good friend of mine, Bob Ryland, the first black professional tennis player.

If you’ve been following this blog, you know that Bob was Arthur Ashe’s hero. In fact, when Arthur Ashe was 14, he said, “I only want to be good enough to be able to beat Bob Ryland.”

Bob has taught tennis to the Williams sisters, Barbra Streisand, Bill Cosby and many others in his career. I recently had lunch in New York City with the living legend and every time is like the first time. What impresses me about Ryland is that even though he lived through segregation, he stays one of the most optimistic people I know.

You think it’s hard to play tournament tennis nowadays?

I remember when Bob told me about a time when he got accepted into a tournament in California because of his high ranking. But once he arrived, and the tournament director saw that he was black, Ryland was told to “Go get some lunch and come back.”

When he returned, the tournament director said that his opponent showed up and Ryland wasn’t here, so he was disqualified. Of course, this was intentional because of the color of his skin.

Ryland also frequently was pulled over by the police for no reason. There were blacks strung up on trees and also dragged down the street when he was a young boy. He lived through hell.

Bob Ryland could easily be bitter and angry at those situations, but he isn’t. According to him, “It is what it is.”

Much of life is not what happens to us, but how we react.

I am proud to say that Bob Ryland is a dear friend, hero and role model. Bob will be 91 years young this June 16th and you can be sure he will be around the Central Park Tennis Courts once the weather warms up.

Many people say, “Be like Mike.” Today, I say, “Be like Bob.”

Thanks for reading.

MESSAGE #1313 LEARN FROM THE DUKE

‎”What a player does best, he should practice least. Practice is for problems.”
-DUKE SNIDER

I love the quote above by the late, baseball great, Duke Snider. Most athletes practice what they are already good at—because it’s more fun. The key is to have fun while focusing on constant improvement. Practice your weaknesses, instead of running away from them.

Recently, someone was looking through my new mental skills workbook and found some errors. I said, “Here’s a pen, please give me your suggestions.” He said, “But I don’t want you to feel bad.”

I then responded, “You’re not going to make me feel bad, you’re making me BETTER.”

It’s all in your head.

MESSAGE #1311 HOW TO WIN

I have a feeling someone reading this wants to win more. Here’s how you do it…

Look at the letters of “WIN”…

What’s Important Now.

When you are competing, giving a presentation, or taking a test, focus on what is important. Focus on what will help you win. This is not the time to focus on the results. You can’t control results anyway.

So what’s important now?

Your effort, your attitude, and your reactions.

Give a full effort and trust your game.

That’s it.

MESSAGE #1310 FORGET IT

Suppose you are playing a tennis match and the score is tied. Your opponent hits you a weak shot and you…hit the ball into the bottom of the net.

How do you react?

If you’re like most people, you will either, let out a sigh of frustration, say something like, “How can you miss that?!?” or perhaps even hit your racquet on the ground.

Do these reactions help you or hurt you?

They hurt you, of course. Plus, you will give your opponent increased confidence to “finish you off.”

Here’s a better response for next time:

1. Transfer the racquet into your opposite hand.
2. Immediately turn away from the net.
3. Walk confidently.
4. Take a long, deep breath.
5. Think about how you can make an adjustment next time.
6. Say an affirmation to yourself like, “That shot is in the past—I can’t control the past. Let it go and focus on this point.”
7. Move your feet like a boxer, and get ready for the next point.
8. Think about your strategy for the next point.
9. Trust your game.
10. Just play.

The greatest athletes in history have something in common, and that is, they are able to let go of past. You can too, it’s a choice.

Thanks for reading.

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MESSAGE #1309 NEVER USE THESE THREE WORDS

If you want to become successful (which I know you do because you’re reading this blog), cut these three words out of your vocabulary.

CAN’T

NEVER

IMPOSSIBLE

You CAN’T win if you use the word CAN’T.

You will NEVER succeed if you use the word NEVER.

It will be IMPOSSIBLE to reach your goals if you use the word IMPOSSIBLE.

Homework: Today, use words and phrases that will motivate you, not words and phrases that will de-motivate you.

MESSAGE #1308 A LESSON IN NYC

Last Friday, I went into New York City to visit my good friend, Bob Ryland, the first black professional tennis player. Bob was Arthur Ashe’s hero and used to coach Barbra Streisand, Bill Cosby and the Williams sisters. We had a wonderful lunch and talked about tennis and life. He is one of my heros, and if you want to watch the video we did back in 2009 at his NYC home, click here.

While I was riding the subway, last Friday, I heard some city kids talking about school. I assume they were seniors in high school because one of them mentioned a tip that her teacher gave her about college.

“My teacher told me to hang out with the jocks in college…because they have copies of all the tests.”

Most students just want the “A,” and most athletes just want the “trophy.”

I think much of society has it all wrong.

Assume this student gets all “A’s” by getting all of the tests.

Then what? Will she graduate and then become a great worker that has character?

No, she will either be lost and/or try to “cheat” in her job, as well.

This is a recipe for disaster.

As a coach, and future parent, I have children focus on the love of learning; the love of constant improvement. When you enjoy the process, including the challenges, you have more satisfaction in what you are doing. Not only that, but you will also retain more of your skill.

There is no easy path to success.

Actually, there is…

HARD WORK.

MESSAGE #1307 TRY THIS DIET…

Confidence is one of the keys to success. There are many sources of confidence, such as hard work, body language, past achievements, etc.

Try giving yourself a steady diet of positive thoughts and affirmations, throughout your day, and especially during competition. You get what you focus on, but unfortunately, most people focus on the negative, or what they don’t want to happen.

Here are some sample affirmations:

“I am a confident athlete who goes all-out, whether I feel like it or not, and inspires others to do the same.”

“When the pressure is greatest, I love competition the most.”

Your affirmations:

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MESSAGE #1304 MIND GAMES

A fellow coach recently told me a story. When he was younger, he faced a young phenom seven times. Going into his final match, his record was   6-0 against this young player. In their final match, however, this coach was losing 2-5 in the third set. It was then that he approached this young phenom and said, “Listen, I’m telling you right now that I’m going to beat you and this will be the last time we face each other.”

You know what?

He DID come back and win, and it WAS the last time they played each other.

Yes, this coach got into his opponent’s head, but his opponent let him.

Do you want someone else to control your mind, or do you want to control your mind?