MESSAGE #699 YOU’RE NEVER TOO YOUNG TO LEARN…

“Knowledge is power.”

Well, I wrapped up Week 1 of my summer tennis camp today.

The campers were on the younger side this week, with the youngest at 7 years old. But I didn’t change much with my lesson plan, not even with the mental training.

Many people think that seven is too young to talk about sports psychology, but I disagree.

I tell a lot of stories. Metaphorical stories with life lessons attached. I talk about how tennis can help you in other areas of life.

And they get it.

Not always, but they get it.

I had one boy this week who also attended my camp last year and remembered some of the stories.

Every day this week I had requests to tell stories with life lessons attached. It was great.

Probably none of the campers this week will go pro. They may not even play on their high school teams. But they will remember the stories. They will remember that tennis is not just about tennis.

It’s about life.

If you can focus, stay positive, go all out and perform under pressure on the tennis court, you can do the same in school, at work and at home.

How do sports help you in other areas of life?


Thanks for reading.

MESSAGE #698 CH-CH-CH-CHANGES…

“I put a dollar in one of those change machines. Nothing changed.”
-GEORGE CARLIN

Today’s message is especially dedicated to the great Melissa Sapio.

The joke above is funny. But it is also true.

I have been teaching tennis for the past 15 years and I have seen a common theme…

People want to become better tennis players, so they pay $80/hour for a lesson. There’s nothing wrong with that. But here is the problem…

They think that the $80 will change their game.

The lesson is just the beginning. You have to take action. You have to put in the work. You have to practice between lessons.

We live in such a fast-paced society with high-speed internet, fast-food and instant oatmeal, and many of us tend to want overnight success.

Do you know how long it takes to become an overnight success?

10 years!

So if you want to become a great tennis player, be patient and put in the work. Take action and create the player you want to be.

I have a secret…

I’m not perfect.

I am making changes in my own life right now to set myself up for the future. I’m willing to sow seeds today to reap tomorrow’s harvest.

Are YOU?


Thanks for reading.

MESSAGE #697 SWING FOR THE FENCES!

s”You miss 100% of the shots you never take.”
-WAYNE GRETSKY

At one point in his career, Babe Ruth hit more home runs in one season, than entire teams combined.

But he also struck out 1,330 times in his career.

Cy Young, holds the all-time pitching record for winning the most games: 511.

He also lost the most games: 313.

Thomas Edison was voted one of the greatest minds of the last century.

He also failed 10,000 times while trying to invent the light bulb.

What does this mean?

1. To be great, you have to be willing to fail.
2. You learn more from a loss than a win – it’s not failure, it’s feedback.
3. Big risk, big reward.
4. Be comfortable being uncomfortable.
5. Go all out!

Whatever you do, whatever you are, be a great one!

Embrace pressure and failure – they are great teachers.


Thanks for reading.

MESSAGE #696 YOGA FOR TENNIS AND LIFE…

“In deep meditation the flow of concentration is continuous like the flow of oil.”
-PATANJALI, founder of Yoga philosophy


Tara Stiles is a yoga master and the founder of Strala Yoga in New York City. She is the resident expert and face of the Women’s Health Yoga Channel, and is a popular writer for the Huffington Post. She connects healthy approaches to exercise, awareness, food, and everyday feeling good with a wide audience around the world. Her work covers many aspects of yoga including basic how-to and preventive health care. Tara is recognized for her bold, fun and approachable style, breaking down ancient tradition and ideas into useful practices for everyone. Stiles’ teachings at Strala centers on building strength while helping people to live healthy and feel good.

Yesterday I spent some time with Tara and one of her yoga instructors, Mike.

I was excited to learn Tara’s philosophy on yoga and how it can help you in sports and life. In yoga, you will feel some pain, but you work through it. And you feel good. Then, when you feel some pain in other areas of life, you tend to work through that, too.

One of the keys to peak performance in sports is to stay in the present, by focusing on your breathing. Deep breathing. This can be found in yoga.

In yoga, as in sports, physical skills take a while to develop, but with hard work, you can get to a high level. But the benefits of yoga can instantly make you feel better by giving you more energy and make you feel healthier and stronger. In fact, Strala Yoga’s motto is “Live healthy. Feel good.”

I asked Tara to give me her top 5 benefits of yoga for athletes. Here’s what she said…

1. Breathing – yoga forces you to breathe longer, more fully and harder. This will help your body be more efficient.
2. Strength training – you will build more strength by building the main muscles in your sport and ones you don’t use as frequently.
3. Focus – by focusing on technique and breathing, yoga helps your focus on the court and on the field too.
4. Recovery/Injury prevention – much of yoga is stretching, so it is great for pre/post competition as well as injury prevention. It releases tension from tight areas and bring them back to their natural state.
5. Balance – the more balanced you are, the better you move, hit, throw and shoot. It will also give you more control and power.

So try some yoga to help you in sports. Better yet, stop by Strala Yoga in the city and take a class with Tara or Mike: http://www.stralayoga.com/

“Tara Stiles has got to be the coolest yoga instructor ever.”
-VANITY FAIR


Thank you to Tara Stiles and thanks for reading.

MESSAGE #695 SUMMER CAMP!

Tennis is not a matter of life and death – it’s much more important than that.

-ED TSENG

Well, today is the first day of summer tennis camp for me. I only have a few students signed up for the first week, which is typical. And the courts are wet. But I’m psyched! And nervous.

Obviously I want to have the courts filled and the sun out, but you know what, it’s okay if that doesn’t happen.

If I only had one camper, I would be excited. Mother Teresa said, “If you can’t feed one hundred people, just feed one.” My assistants and I know that it’s not just about “feeding balls,” but about helping students learn a skill, get fit, learn discipline and positive thinking…and have fun! I incorporate life lessons and sportspersonship/teamwork into the tennis. How many of my students will go pro? Not many. But they can all use the lessons learned to become better students, romantic partners, employees, family members and people.

And if the courts stay wet? Big deal. I am prepared with fitness/nutrition, videos, and a mental training program. It forces me to perform under pressure and get a little creative. And it helps me become stronger and better at what I do.

Hmm, sounds a bit like tennis.

Thanks for reading.

MESSAGE #693 A GRATEFUL LUNCH…

“Gratitude gives athletes calm energy.”
-BOB EMMONS, Ph.D., author of “Thanks! How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier”

This weekend is the First World Congress on Positive Psychology in Philadelphia. Most of the big players are in town – Martin Seligman, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Ed Diener, Barbara Fredrickson, Bob Emmons and many more.

One of my top character strengths is gratitude and Bob Emmons is the authority on gratitude in positive psychology from UC Davis. I caught up with Bob over lunch yesterday in Philadelphia.

Mr. Emmons and I had some great conversations about his work, my work, the Yankees, and positive psychology in sports.

Emmons shared a comment that the Dalai Lama once made, when asked if there was a such thing as “bad” happiness.

“There is something called ‘stupid happiness’ – that’s when a bear is chasing you and you are happy.”

I guess you can say that it is also when you are not getting any better at tennis and you are happy. Or you are not doing what you love and are happy.

The point is, no matter what your past or current situation, or your material wants, you can be happy now. It’s a choice. But you have to be happy about the right things. Appreciate all of the big and little things in your life. Be fully present in everything you do.

One of the things that has changed my life is my daily incorporation of gratitude. I no longer need or want material things to make me happy. All of my happiness is already inside me. And all around me. I’m enjoying every day instead of looking to my next vacation or the weekend. Am I happy when things go wrong? Of course not, but I accept them, learn, and move on.

I asked Dr. Emmons to give me one tip that athletes can use to improve their performance, using gratitude.

He said that sometimes it’s good to focus on the bad, or past poor performances. Losses don’t last very long, so don’t worry about if you do lose. Say you lose a match. You’ve lived through other losses, and you’ll live through this one, too. You should think that there’s nothing you can’t handle. If you lose a point, it’s okay, just focus on the next one. Be grateful for just being able to compete, win or lose. When you are in this state, you play with a relaxed focus. When you play with a relaxed focus, you win more.

For more tips on how to incorporate gratitude in your life, checkout Dr. Emmons’ great book, “Thanks!”- you’ll be grateful you did… http://www.amazon.com/Thanks-Science-Gratitude-Make-Happier/dp/0618620192


Thanks for reading.

MESSAGE #692

“I’m going to be throwing as hard as ever – the ball just won’t get there as fast.”
-BOB FELLER, 90 years old, on starting in the Hall of Fame Game at Cooperstown this Sunday

MESSAGE #691 EXCEED EXPECTATIONS…

“It’s never crowded along the extra mile.”
-WAYNE DYER

At the end of a practice, do a little bit more.

At the end of your workday, do a little bit more.

At the end of your study session, do a little bit more.

Why should you do this?

Because nobody else is.

Read the following article from the OC Register:

Thursday, June 18, 2009
Pixar grants girl’s dying wish to see ‘Up’
Company sent DVD so Huntington Beach girl, 10, could watch it.
By ANNIE BURRIS


HUNTINGTON BEACH – Colby Curtin, a 10-year-old with a rare form of cancer, was staying alive for one thing – a movie.
From the minute Colby saw the
previews to the Disney-Pixar movie Up, she was desperate to see it. Colby had been diagnosed with vascular cancer about three years ago, said her mother, Lisa Curtin, and at the beginning of this month it became apparent that she would die soon and was too ill to be moved to a theater to see the film.
After a family friend made frantic calls to Pixar to help grant Colby her dying wish, Pixar came to the rescue.
The company flew an employee with a DVD of Up, which is only in theaters, to the Curtins’ Huntington Beach home on June 10 for a private viewing of the movie.
The animated movie begins with scenes showing the evolution of a relationship between a husband and wife. After losing his wife in old age, the now grumpy man deals with his loss by attaching thousands of balloons to his house, flying into the sky, and going on an adventure with a little boy.
Colby died about seven hours after seeing the film.
With her daughter’s vigil planned for Friday, Lisa Curtin reflected about how grateful she is that Pixar – and “Up” – were a part of her only child’s last day.
“When I watched it, I had really no idea about the content of the theme of the movie,” said Curtin, 46. “I just know that word ‘Up’ and all of the balloons and I swear to you, for me it meant that (Colby) was going to go up. Up to heaven.”
Pixar officials declined to comment on the story or name the employees involved.


THE PREVIEWS
Colby was diagnosed with vascular cancer on Dec. 23, 2005 after doctors found a tumor in her liver. At the time of her death, her stomach was about 94 inches around, swollen with fluids the cancer wouldn’t let her body properly digest. The rest of her body probably weighed about 45 pounds, family friend Carole Lynch said.
Colby had gone to Newport Elementary School and was known for making others laugh, family friend Terrell Orum-Moore said. Colby loved to dance, sing, swim and seemed to have a more mature understanding of the world than other children her age, Orum-Moore said.
On April 28, Colby went to see the Dream Works 3-D movie “Monsters Vs. Aliens” but was impressed by the previews to “Up.”
“It was from then on, she said, ‘I have to see that movie. It is so cool,’” Lynch said.
Colby was a movie fan, Lisa Curtin said, and she latched onto Pixar’s movies because she loved animals.
Two days later Colby’s health began to worsen. On June 4 her mother asked a hospice company to bring a wheelchair for Colby so she could visit a theater to see “Up.” However, the weekend went by and the wheelchair was not delivered, Lisa Curtin said.
By June 9, Colby could no longer be transported to a theater and her family feared she would die without having seen the movie.
At that point, Orum-Moore, who desperately wanted Colby to get her last wish, began to cold-call
Pixar and Disney to see if someone could help.
Pixar has an automated telephone answering system, Orum-Moore said, and unless she had a name of a specific person she wanted to speak to, she could not get through. Orum-Moore guessed a name and the computer system transferred her to someone who could help, she said.
Pixar officials listened to Colby’s story and agreed to send someone to Colby’s house the next day with a DVD of “Up,” Orum-Moore recalled.
She immediately called Lisa Curtin, who told Colby.
“Do you think you can hang on?” Colby’s mother said.
“I’m ready (to die), but I’m going to wait for the movie,” the girl replied.

THE MOVIE
At about 12:30 p.m. the Pixar employee came to the Curtins’ home with the DVD.
He had a bag of stuffed animals of characters in the movie and a movie poster. He shared some quirky background details of the movie and the group settled in to watch Up.
Colby couldn’t see the screen because the pain kept her eyes closed so her mother gave her a play-by-play of the film.
At the end of the film, the mother asked if her daughter enjoyed the movie and Colby nodded yes, Lisa Curtin said.
The employee left after the movie, taking the DVD with him, Lynch said.
“He couldn’t have been nicer,” said Lynch who watched the movie with the family. “His eyes were just welled up.”
After the movie, Colby’s dad, Michael Curtin, who is divorced from Lisa Curtin, came to visit.
Colby died with her mom and dad nearby at 9:20 p.m.
Among the Up memorabilia the employee gave Colby was an “adventure book” – a scrap book the main character’s wife used to chronicle her journeys.
“I’ll have to fill those adventures in for her,” Lisa Curtin said.



Thanks for reading.

MESSAGE #690 THE ART OF MEMORY…

“Art is skill, that is the first meaning of the word.”
-ERIC GILL

I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again.

Sports is not about talent, it’s about skill.

Music is not about talent, it’s about skill.

Academics, work, and everything else are the same way.

On Wednesday night, I attended a lecture at Princeton given by a grandmaster of memory, the great Ed Cooke. Grandmaster Cooke can memorize 1,000 numbers in about an hour. And he can memorize a deck of cards in about one minute.

He had the audience remember 20 words, forward and backwards. It turns out it was one way to memorize the Periodic Table of Elements! How did he do it? He created a similar sounding word and linked a picture with it.

He also had the audience memorize pi to 22 decimal places.

And to top it off, at the end of his lecture he memorized a brand new deck of cards in one minute. Amazing.

Author’s note: ALL FEATS ARE LEARNED!

It’s about skill, strategy and hard work. Not talent.

If someone in the world can do it, YOU can do it. I wasn’t born to be a tennis pro or motivational speaker, I was TRAINED to be one.

“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, either way you’re right.”
-HENRY FORD

Thanks for reading.

MESSAGE #689 CAN ONE PERSON MAKE A DIFFERENCE?

“We must be the change we wish to see in the world.”
-MAHATMA GANDHI

As you know, yesterday morning I attended a great lecture on happiness by The Reverend Peter Stimpson. Well last night I listened to another great lecture by Ed Cooke, Grandmaster of Memory, at Princeton University. As a speaker myself, I love listening to other speakers, but unfortunately most speakers are boring. Let me explain. Most speakers memorize their lines and their main goal is to deliver each point, but that’s not what it takes to be a great speaker. A great speaker speaks from the heart, creates energy, involves the audience and is entertaining. I’m going to tell you all about Ed Cooke’s amazing lecture…

Tomorrow.

Today, I want to tell you that you can make a difference.

I know, I know, you’re probably thinking, “How can one person make a difference?”

Well, imagine if your car broke down inside the Lincoln Tunnel? I’m pretty sure you would affect traffic.

But I want you to make a difference in a positive way.

What do you love? What are you good at?

-Start a blog
-Post a video on youtube
-Compliment your customers
-Cheer on your teammates
-Compliment a stranger
-Cheer on a family member
-Leave a weekly inspirational quote on your voicemail
-Go read to the blind
-Have your dog go sit and listen to children with speech problems while they are practicing

It will matter.

It doesn’t matter what you do, but do something. Start a movement. Make a difference. Be a leader.

Watch the video below. And pay close attention at around the one minute mark. And then close your eyes and imaging what you can do…

Thanks for reading (and watching).