MESSAGE #576
If you can imagine it, you can achieve it.
If you can dream it, you can become it.
If you can imagine it, you can achieve it.
If you can dream it, you can become it.
“If hard work is the key to success, most people would rather pick the lock.”
-CLAUDE MCDONALD
It’s 4AM and I am getting ready to hop a flight to Florida for the Delray Beach ITC (International Tennis Championships). Mardy Fish, Lleyton Hewitt, Tommy Haas, Marcos Baghdatis and the Bryan Brothers will be playing in this great tournament. I will not be playing but I will be promoting my book and signing copies at the Golfsmith Booth. In addition to creating a buzz in sunny Florida, I plan on meeting some key tennis people in Florida, many of which are part of the USTA and USPTA, as well as possibly giving a talk to local student-athletes.
Need some motivation for your day?
“Don’t count the days, make the days count.!”
-author unknown
Have you ever listened to a song and then find that it stays in your head all day? This even happens if it is a song we don’t like!
Well, many times we tend to criticize ourselves over and over and then both our confidence and performance decrease.
Here’s your assignment for today.
Instead focusing on what you don’t want, focus on what you DO want. Write down the following affirmation on a small piece of paper and keep it in your wallet. Read it to yourself first thing in the morning, last thing at night and at least once during your day. Do this for the next five days. The key is, when you read it, really feel it. If you don’t feel it, it is okay to read it several times. This technique will help you go from where you are to where you want to be. Let me know your results.
“Every day, in every way, I am becoming better and better.”
-EMILE COUTE
Today’s message is by a very special ghost blogger…
Watch this video. Pay attention to what the character of master perfumer Giuseppe Baldini (played by Dustin Hoffman) exclaims in the 3rd minute.
The movie tells the story of a character who is a savant, born with a hyper-attuned sense of smell.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EnSpSEYvSak&feature=related
“Talent means next to nothing! While experience acquired in humility and hard work means everything.”
We would like to think that there exist a finite number of people who have the luck of being born with an innate gift, talent, genius, etc.
People seem to prefer to believe this myth even though it robs us of the hope that we can cultivate our talents (and robs us of the ability to give hope to others that they may cultivate their talents as well).
Why do we choose to believe this? Probably because it is safe, it is easy, and it absolves us of guilt when we know we are not working to our potential.
It’s interesting and easy to focus on talent. And, sometimes some people do have some type of advantage. However, true change and growth results when we focus on humility and hard work through commitments to continuously improve.
This is the lesson that teachers, coaches, and experts in any field need to convey.
Thanks for reading.
Today’s message is especially dedicated to the great Nicole D’ Onofrio.
Yesterday I attended a lecture by Sam Wang, Ph.D., Professor of Molecular Biology and Neuroscience at Princeton University and co-author of the book, “Welcome to Your Brain.” Dr. Wang gave an informative and entertaining presentation about the brain with facts, myths and tips.
Many people feel that listening to Mozart as a baby (Baby Einstein) will help develop your brain. This is false and interesting enough the Baby Einstein products were tested on college students. And those babies that watch DVDs one hour a day actually learn language slower. Talking to your child, is better, even if they can’t speak yet.
We only use about 10 percent of our brain right? Wrong. We use all of our brain. If you have a stroke somewhere in your brain, you will know.
I also learned that the mental abilities are the same in men and both sexes are equally moody – we are just better at reading women’s moods.
I spoke with Dr. Wang after his presentation and asked him how he thought his research tied in with peak performance for athletes. One of the things he mentioned was called willpower building. He said that willpower is trainable, just like your muscles. Below is an interesting article that he co-wrote.
Tighten Your Belt, Strengthen Your Mind
By SANDRA AAMODT and SAM WANG
New York Times, April 2, 2008
DECLINING house prices, rising job layoffs, skyrocketing oil costs and a major credit crunch have brought consumer confidence to its lowest point in five years. With a relatively long recession looking increasingly likely, many American families may be planning to tighten their belts.
Interestingly, restraining our consumer spending, in the short term, may cause us to actually loosen the belts around our waists. What’s the connection? The brain has a limited capacity for self-regulation, so exerting willpower in one area often leads to backsliding in others. The good news, however, is that practice increases willpower capacity, so that in the long run, buying less now may improve our ability to achieve future goals — like losing those 10 pounds we gained when we weren’t out shopping.
The brain’s store of willpower is depleted when people control their thoughts, feelings or impulses, or when they modify their behavior in pursuit of goals. Psychologist Roy Baumeister and others have found that people who successfully accomplish one task requiring self-control are less persistent on a second, seemingly unrelated task.
In one pioneering study, some people were asked to eat radishes while others received freshly baked chocolate chip cookies before trying to solve an impossible puzzle. The radish-eaters abandoned the puzzle in eight minutes on average, working less than half as long as people who got cookies or those who were excused from eating radishes. Similarly, people who were asked to circle every “e” on a page of text then showed less persistence in watching a video of an unchanging table and wall.
Other activities that deplete willpower include resisting food or drink, suppressing emotional responses, restraining aggressive or sexual impulses, taking exams and trying to impress someone. Task persistence is also reduced when people are stressed or tired from exertion or lack of sleep.
What limits willpower? Some have suggested that it is blood sugar, which brain cells use as their main energy source and cannot do without for even a few minutes. Most cognitive functions are unaffected by minor blood sugar fluctuations over the course of a day, but planning and self-control are sensitive to such small changes. Exerting self-control lowers blood sugar, which reduces the capacity for further self-control. People who drink a glass of lemonade between completing one task requiring self-control and beginning a second one perform equally well on both tasks, while people who drink sugarless diet lemonade make more errors on the second task than on the first. Foods that persistently elevate blood sugar, like those containing protein or complex carbohydrates, might enhance willpower for longer periods.
In the short term, you should spend your limited willpower budget wisely. For example, if you do not want to drink too much at a party, then on the way to the festivities, you should not deplete your willpower by window shopping for items you cannot afford. Taking an alternative route to avoid passing the store would be a better strategy.
On the other hand, if you need to study for a big exam, it might be smart to let the housecleaning slide to conserve your willpower for the more important job. Similarly, it can be counterproductive to work toward multiple goals at the same time if your willpower cannot cover all the efforts that are required. Concentrating your effort on one or at most a few goals at a time increases the odds of success.
Focusing on success is important because willpower can grow in the long term. Like a muscle, willpower seems to become stronger with use. The idea of exercising willpower is seen in military boot camp, where recruits are trained to overcome one challenge after another.
In psychological studies, even something as simple as using your nondominant hand to brush your teeth for two weeks can increase willpower capacity. People who stick to an exercise program for two months report reducing their impulsive spending, junk food intake, alcohol use and smoking. They also study more, watch less television and do more housework. Other forms of willpower training, like money-management classes, work as well.
No one knows why willpower can grow with practice but it must reflect some biological change in the brain. Perhaps neurons in the frontal cortex, which is responsible for planning behavior, or in the anterior cingulate cortex, which is associated with cognitive control, use blood sugar more efficiently after repeated challenges. Or maybe one of the chemical messengers that neurons use to communicate with one another is produced in larger quantities after it has been used up repeatedly, thereby improving the brain’s willpower capacity.
Whatever the explanation, consistently doing any activity that requires self-control seems to increase willpower — and the ability to resist impulses and delay gratification is highly associated with success in life.
Don’t just live the length of your life…live the width of it as well.
“The fight is won or lost far away from witnesses…behind the lines, in the gym, and out there on the road, long before I dance under those lights.”
-MUHAMMAD ALI
Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed at work, at home or at school? Do you sometimes feel distracted and pulled in many different directions? There will always be distractions, but there’s something you can do to limit the number of them.
Have a purpose. Create the life you want. Make the actions you take today help create your future. The future that you want. Many people wake up in the morning and say, “Let’s see what today brings.” This mindset relies on a lot of luck and these people are just spinning their wheels. Instead, say, “What do I want to accomplish today that will help me get closer to my goals?” If you have a true purpose in life, everything you do should go towards that purpose. If you have options or decisions to make, think about if taking on those tasks are in line with your goals. You may have many external distractions, like what people are saying, what people are asking of you, the economy or society.
A good friend once told me that you should be like a hurricane…there can be all these distractions going on around you, but on the inside you need to be like the “eye” of the hurricane-calm and focused.
Figure out your purpose.
Keep your actions in line with your purpose.
Create the life that you want.
Help others.
Leave a legacy.
“Nothing contributes so much to tranquilize the mind as a steady purpose-a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye.”
-MARY WOLLSTONECRAFT SHELLY
Thanks for reading.
Today’s message is especially dedicated to the great Drew Lessa at Temple University.
I know you try to take care of yourself. You go to the gym. You watch what you eat. Sure, you might want to take a few pounds off, but physically you are doing all right. But when was the last time you broke a mental sweat? You need to work on your mental game, especially if you are an athlete. Here are some brain teasers to try…
1. A boy and a girl born on the same day of the same year with the same parents are not twins. How is this possible?
2. A dog had three puppies, named Mopsy, Topsy and Spot. What was the mother’s name.
3. How many apples would you have if you took two apples from three apples?
4. Which number follows ten thousand ninety-five?
Ten thousand ninety-seven?
Ten thousand ninety-nine?
ANSWERS:
1. Two out of a set of triplets
2. What
3. Two
4. 10,096; 10,098; 10,100
How did you do? Have any others? Leave a comment.
Thanks for reading.