Message # 109 Ask Good Questions

Isador Isaac Rabi, one of America’s renowned physicists, relates this memory of his childhood. When he came home from school every day, his mother would ask, “Did you ask any good questions today, Isador?” Notice she did not ask “What did you learn today?”

William A. Ward remarked, “Curiosity is the wick in the candle of learning.” Could it be concluded that learning is the result of asking the right questions, not necessarily striving to have all the right answers? Rabi attributed a great deal of his success to his ability to ask the right questions. As the age-old proverb says, “if you know all the answers, you haven’t asked all the questions.”

-Glen Van Ekeren

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Message # 108 Are You Awake?

IT IS SAID that soon after his enlightenment the Buddha passed a man on the road who was struck by the Buddha’s extraordinary radiance and peaceful presence. The man stopped and asked, “My friend, what are you? Are you a celestial being or a god?”

“No,” said the Buddha.
“Well, then, are you some kind of magician or wizard?”
Again, the Buddha answered, “No.”
“Are you a man?”
“No.”
“Well, my friend, then what are you?” The Buddha replied, “I am awake.”

“Buddha”

The name Buddha literally means “one who is awake.” Many people go through life, mindlessly. Remember, we have about 60,000 thoughts a day and 95% of those are the same as the day before.

We are our habits.

If you don’t like the results you’re getting, change your habits. Is it difficult? No, change is easy, maintenance is a challenge. But who doesn’t love a challenge?

I meditate at least 30 times a day. I just stop whatever I’m doing and appreciate all that I have and all that is around me. Basically, I have GRATITUDE. By doing this, not only have I managed to SLOW life down, but I’m also healthier, happier and more productive. I am enlightened, awake.

So wake up!!! Work hard, but enjoy life. If you appreciate all the good AND all of the bad, you will be enlightened. They can take your house away; they can take your car away; they can even take your ipod away; but if you have inner peace and stability, NOBODY can EVER take that away.

People wait until they become successful (whatever that means) to be happy. It doesn’t work that way…you can be happy NOW; it is a choice.

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Message # 107 The Rule of 3s…

Last night, I was on a tele-seminar with the great coach, Mike Tully and the amazing professor of sports psychology, Dr. Rob Gilbert. The theme was simple, yet powerful.

The Rule of 3s

1. Figure out the 3 most important things that will make you great at whatever industry you are in.

2. Find a way to measure it. (Can you do it?)

3. Focus on the right things, every day. (Will you do it?)

You CAN do it, but WILL you?

You HAVE knowledge but will you take ACTION?

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Message # 106 Be Like a Camera

This message is dedicated to the great John Sieh, about to embark on a month-long trip to Europe.

Are you a camera? Can you focus?

You need to focus, first, on the right things. If you are weak at overheads but only practice your groundstrokes (your strength) during practices, guess what? Your overheads aren’t going to get better. Focus on your strengths, but don’t forget about your weaknesses.

One of the keys in life is listening. The problem is, when other people are talking, they think about what they are going to say next, in response. Instead, FOCUS on what the other person is saying. Then, you will be able to truly HEAR what they are saying and will be able to better respond to them and perform at a higher level. That will lead to a better relationship, whether it’s with a teacher, family member, whoever.

One quick thing about multi-tasking…don’t do it. I see people all the time sending emails from their phone and checking to see who is calling. I have been on the phone with people and they are multi-tasking at work. I can tell by their voice that they are multi-tasking. They think they are being productive, but I say it’s lack of focus. I certainly don’t like that feeling when I’m on the receiving end. Focus on one task at a time and you will be more productive in the long run.

What else can you focus on? A lot. You know what you need to focus on; it could be your goals, your fitness/nutrition, your family, your finances, your spirituality, your balance, finding your purpose, and many more things, but I trust you get the point.

Many people know what they need to focus on, but don’t do it. Why? Because they don’t write them down. Have a goals sheet or notebook. If you don’t have a goals sheet, email me and I will send you one. It’s too easy to say “I’ll do it later.” There’s never a “good” time; well, except for right now.

“Man is what he thinks about all day long.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Message # 105 You Can’t Find THIS at Barnes and Noble…

This message is dedicated to the great Walter Czajkowski.

I discovered Elbert Hubbard’s “Philistine” Magazine yesterday. Never heard of it? That’s because it’s from 1905. This magazine allowed Hubbard to express his opinions and philosophy. Each issue was printed by hand on a press. I managed to get a copy of one from December 1905. A yearly subscription was one dollar and a single copy, ten cents.

What is amazing is that the message is the same as what I talk about every day. Why is this information still around? Because it works!

There is a quote on the back of each issue and this is the one I have…”The Love you LIBERATE in your WORK is the LOVE You Keep.”

I like it. Here’s more from that issue.

“I believe that no one can harm us but ourselves; that sin is misdirected energy; that there is no devil but fear; and that the Universe is planned for good. I believe that work is a blessing, that winter is as necessary as summer, that night is as useful as day, that Death is a manifestation of Life, and just as good. I believe in the Now and Here. I believe in You & I believe in a Power that is in Ourselves that makes for Righteousness.” – Fra Elbertus

Fra Elbertus was the pseudonym for Elbert Hubbard.

“I express nothing original-the truth has always been known by the Sacred Few. And all I here do is to paraphrase these words uttered two thousand years ago.”

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Message # 104 Just Wondering

DO YOU WANT TO KNOW HOW BECOME AN EXPERT?

Today’s message is dedicated to Detective Christopher Longo.

The way to become an expert in whatever you do, is to look at things from a different perspective, try different ways of doing things, and ask yourself questions.

When you look at things from others’ perspectives, you may see that your own perception was wrong. The truth of the matter is that there really is no right or wrong, just differences. You don’t know what others have gone through or have been taught. There could be cultural differences or learned conditions. On the other hand, if you are playing a tennis match and look at the match from your opponents’ perspective, you may be able to figure out their strategy and help yourself out.

If you try different ways of doing things, you may find better ways and more options. It’s OK to lose a tennis match as long as you try different strategies. If what you are doing isn’t working, try a different approach. Change the way you hit the ball; or WHERE you hit the ball. Do anything to get your opponent out of “the zone.”

If you ask yourself questions, you will also learn more and get new ideas. I think many of us are on automatic and don’t question what we are doing, what is going on, or where others are coming from. But you need to ask the RIGHT questions. Instead of asking “why did I miss that serve?” ask “HOW can I fix that?”

There are so many variables that nothing really happens exactly the same every time. So if you begin noticing differences, you will be more of an expert in whatever you do. Not only will you be able to perform better yourself, but you will be able to TEACH it better yourself.

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Message # 103 Eight Suggestions for Succeeding

This message is especially dedicated to the great Jake Myers, in Brussels.

Eight Suggestions for Succeeding

1. Fear no opponent. Respect every opponent
2. Remember, it’s the perfection of the smallest details that make the big things happen.
3. Keep in mind that hustle makes up for many a mistake.
4. Be more interested in character than reputation.
5. Be quick, but don’t hurry.
6. Understand that the harder you work, the more luck you will have.
7. Know that valid self-analysis is crucial for improvement.
8. Remember, there is no substitute for hard work and careful planning. Failing to prepare is preparing to fail.

– John Wooden

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Message # 102 Don’t Be a Jack of All Trades and a Master of None

This message is dedicated to the great Dr. Harvey Dulberg.

When figuring out what you want to do or accomplish in life, you have to make sure you narrow your focus. Too many people try to put their hands in many different things and as a result, just wind up in quicksand, going nowhere. If you narrow your focus, not only do you get to your goals quicker and have “laser focus,” but you also become an expert in whatever field you are in. It is then that you will be called upon to give your input on breaking news. Don’t just say you want to be a good cook, say you will be an expert chef in seafood or Italian cuisine.

You can’t spread yourself too thin because if you try to please everyone, you will end up pleasing no one. Get specific and be a master at one specific thing.

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Message # 101 Even the Experts Can Be Mindless

This message is especially dedicated to the great Ellen Langer at Harvard.

When I met with Ellen Langer this week up at Harvard, we talked a lot about her theory of mindfulness. During her graduate class, Cognition and Decision Making, she told us about a great study that was done by a psychologist at Stanford.

The topic was schizophrenia and one of the indicators of this disorder is that you hear voices. So he had 10 people go to a hospital and say that they were hearing voices. That was the only thing they said that was false. They answered all the other questions honestly. Guess what?

None of them could get out.

So the point is that, many times we are mindless and don’t even know it. Dr. Langer says that we don’t know enough about disorders to say that there is only one way to cure it. This happens every day because we are so set in our ways. Only WE know how we truly feel.

If we are mindful of situations and notice differences, we will be able to perform at a higher level.

Thanks, Ellen.

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Message #100 The Century Mark

This post is especially dedicated to the great Melissa Thurston.

Wow, 100 messages. Is it impressive? I guess so, but I am just dedicated to bringing you a message every day. I’m doing what I love and having fun…I don’t plan on stopping anytime soon.

I’m reading an amazing book right now entitled “The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari.” I highly recommend it…below are some of my favorite quotes, so far.

“Youre ‘l can’ is more important than your IQ.”

“All success in life starts in your mind.”

“Stop judging events as positive or negative. Celebrate them and learn from them.”

“Stop being a prisoner of your past and start being the architect of your future.”

“Live out the glory of your imaination, not you memory.”

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