There once was a woman, she was the envy of all her friends-she had two boyfriends, Bob and Tom. Bob and Tom both knew about each other. This went on for a couple of years.
Well, one Friday evening, Bob picked her up as he normally did on Friday evenings. But Bob who is normally late, was right on time. And Bob who was normally dressed casually, wore a suit. And Bob who normally was pretty mellow, was a bit excited. So they went to dinner but instead of going to their normal restaurant/bar to eat, they went to a fancy restaurant. They had a wonderful meal and right before dessert, Bob takes out a jewelry box from his jacket pocket and proposes marriage. And the woman says the worst possible thing, aside from a flat-out no. She said, “I have to think about it.” So the Bob was upset and took the woman home.
The woman was sad…until the next night, when Tom picked her up.
So Tom who is normally right on time, was early. And Tom who is normally in a suit, wore a tuxedo. And Tom who normally was energetic, was extremely high energy. They went to dinner but instead of going to their normal fancy restaurant, this night was the country club. They had a wonderful meal and right before dessert, Tom takes out a jewelry box from his jacket pocket and proposes marriage. And the woman says the worst possible thing, aside from a flat-out no. She said, “I have to think about it.” Tom was upset and took the woman home.
The woman sat lying in bed feeling miserable, going from two boyfriends to no boyfriends. But fortunately, the only woman who could help her showed up-her fairy godmother. “You don’t look like your normal self, what’s wrong?” the fairy godmother asked.
“Bob took me out Friday night and we had a nice time, but then he proposed to me and I said I have to think about it. Then Tom took me out Saturday night and we had a great time, but then he proposed to me and I said I have to think about it. I don’t know who to choose!”
“That’s easy. All you have to do is take two pieces of paper and on the top of one write Bob and on the top of the other, write Tom. Take as long as you need and write down the one thing you love most about each of them and then your answer will instantly come to you.”
So the woman took the piece of paper with Bob on it and thought and thought and thought and three hours later she figured out what she loved most about Bob. Then, she took the sheet with Tom on it and it took her another three hours, but she figured out what she loved most about Tom…and her answer instantly came to her.
A little while later, her fairy godmother showed up and looked at her. “Oh, you look like your normal self. Have you come to a decision?”
“Oh yes, I choose Bob!” exclaimed the woman.
“Great, but just out of curiosity, what did you write on Tom’s piece of paper?”
“Well, when I’m with Tom, I feel that he’s the most wonderful person in the whole world!”
“Really?” said the fairy godmother, puzzled. “Then why did you choose Bob?!”
“Because when I’m with Bob, I feel that I’M the most wonderful person in the whole world.”
So that’s how you get anyone to fall in love with you. It’s about others. Most people focus on themselves, but when you focus on others, you are on a whole new level. Remember the “Validation” video a few messages ago? That’s what I’m talking about. And it’s not just about romantic relationships.
It’s about athletic teams.
It’s about work teams.
It’s about family teams.
It’s about everyone you come in contact with.
HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!
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