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MESSAGE #1192 I’M A THIEF!

Someone once said, (and that someone may have been me), that good teachers borrow and GREAT teachers steal.

Well, today’s message was stolen.

My good friend and mentor, the great Rob Gilbert, Ph.D, one of the top sports psychologists in the world shared something with me recently.

He said that Lou Holtz, the former head coach of the Notre Dame football team once said that there are four types of people in the world…

The cop-outs.

The hold-outs.

The drop-outs.

And the all-outs.

The cop-outs make excuses.

The hold-outs hold back.

The drop-outs give up.

And the all-outs go all-out all the time.

Which category do you fall into?

MESSAGE #1188 EMBARRASSING

I once had a student who hated being embarrassed. During lessons and during competition, he would just drive himself crazy thinking about what people thought about how he was playing, and what they would think if he lost, or missed a shot.

Guess how he played?

Poorly!

The reason why this type of focus hurts your performance is because when you focus on external factors, you are not focusing on what is going to help you play your best game.

The way to play your best game is to focus on your strategy, your effort, your attitude. If your strategy isn’t working, make an adjustment.

The key is to NOT let anything external have any influence over you.

Is it hard?

Sure.

Is it a choice?

Definitely.

MESSAGE #1187 A TIP FROM JOHN MCENROE

There are scores of players who can hit every shot in the book who never make it into a Grand Slam event. Those who make it are there because they are mentally tougher. They wanted it more.
-JOHN MCENROE

MESSAGE #1186 WHEN TO STOP

I always tell people, you can stop as many times as you want, just don’t stop moving your feet.

Too many people stop.

Too many people quit.

Too many people give up.

Those who persist are the ones who make it.

You don’t have to be great to persist.

HANG ON UNTIL YOU CATCH ON.

As everyone else is giving up, guess who will be left?

YOU.

MESSAGE #1184 THE MICK

Happy Birthday to the best switch-hitter of all time, Mickey Charles Mantle of the New York Yankees.

The Mick was the most popular player of his generation. He hit tape-measure home runs.

He ran from home to first in 3.1 seconds.

He made spectacular catches in centerfield.

And he played basically on one leg.

In his first season in the big leagues, Mantle got his spikes stuck in a drain in the outfield, trying to avoid the great Joe DiMaggio, in his final season. Mickey would never be the same. It was the beginning of a career filled with injuries.

Last week, I was at the Yogi Berra Museum and Jane Leavy was doing a talk and book signing on “The Last Boy, Mickey Mantle.” She once asked Mickey when the last time he played without pain was.

Mickey said, “When I was 18.”

He basically played his entire career injured.

And I know what you might be thinking, “Mickey was a great ballplayer, but he was an alcoholic.”

What most people don’t know is that Mickey was sexually abused as a child.

He thought he was going to die young, like the rest of the men in his family (he was the only one who lived past age 45).

So he lived every day like it was his last.

Nobody knows what he was going through.

One of my favorite photos is of a home run that Mickey hit 18 inches shy of clearing Yankee Stadium. It was 118 feet above field level and was said to have been still rising.

His home runs were legendary.

But so was his courage.

At the end of his life, he became sober. He wanted others to learn from his mistakes. He was helping others. They say he left this world in peace.

That may have been his greatest accomplishment.

A true role model.

None of us are perfect, I know I’m not.

So as I think about Mickey Charles Mantle on this day, I think of one of the greatest baseball players in the history of the game, but I also think of one of the bravest and most honest people, as well.

I never met Mickey, but I have done my share of research on him.

One thing is for sure, he had courage; on and off the field.

MESSAGE #1180 SKIP TO YOUR LOU

I was teaching today and as you can imagine, I try to stay on the positive side of things. Well, as part of our warmup, I have my students skip across the court. Without fail, they smile while they are doing it. So I said, “It’s hard to do that without smiling. That means, whenever you are in a bad mood, miss a shot or someone does something mean to you, just start skipping.”

The lesson began and one of my students who made a negative comment while walking on to the court, missed a shot.

Guess what?

She said, “I’ll just skip it off.”

And she did and felt better.

And she performed better.

Can you apply this to your life?

MESSAGE #1179 PRACTICE MAKES IMPERFECT

“Practice makes imperfect. People practice until they ‘think’ they know it. The key is to remain a learner.”
-ELLEN LANGER, Ph.D, Harvard

In conversations I’ve had with Dr. Langer, we spoke about how when practicing, athletes need to be mindful. Don’t just practice in perfect conditions, practice in realistic conditions, i.e., in tennis, practice hitting balls with different pace, spin, and depth coming at you. Practice in sun and wind and extreme cold and heat. Practice with people better than you. Practice with people worse than you.

Notice what is happening, make adjustments.

Rarely will conditions be perfect, so why practice that way?

MESSAGE #1178 GO FOR IT!

There are two types of people in the world…

Those who take action.

And those who don’t.

As I work on my forthcoming book, “The Pinstripe Principles: Why The Yankees Are So Mentally Tough (and how you can be too),” I am reaching out to people that I never thought I would ever talk to.

Yesterday, I interviewed Babe Ruth’s daughter, Julia Ruth Stevens. Last night I was chatting with Yogi Berra’s wife, Carmen.

Jorge Posada has already agreed to speak with me after the season is over.

I also spoke with John Zieman at the Babe Ruth Birthplace and Museum and he already wants me to do a book signing next season.

And this is just the beginning.

But what does this have to do with you?

You have to take action.

You can’t just talk about writing a book, or taking up the guitar, or eating better, or studying, or practicing.

Anyone can talk about what they’re going to do.

But the successful people DO what they’re going to do.

MESSAGE #1177 CHANGE YOUR LIFE WHEN YOU’RE SLEEPING

Did you know that whatever you think about during the 30 minutes before you go to bed gets replayed in your mind 15 or more times while you’re sleeping?

What do you do right before bed?

Do you watch the news, ie, the down economy, terrorism, food recalls, shootings, etc?

Or do you cultivate gratitude for all you have in your life?

Do you think about what you have to do tomorrow and visualize it going the way you planned?

Your focus is your future.

Think about what you want to happen and don’t give energy to what you don’t.