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Today’s message is dedicated to the great Ted Borsuk.

As you know, my normal routine is to meditate as the sun is rising and then write in my blog within an hour of sunrise. Today, my blog should have been written by 8:15 AM EST. It is now 10:38 AM EST. I am sorry. I took my puppy out at 7 AM, but then went back to bed or a bit. I DID meditate in bed, but no blog entry until now.

One thing that we need to do more of is admit our faults. I think many times we try to sugar-coat things to make ourselves feel better. Our focus is something on the outside, instead of something on the inside.

“It’s not your landscape, it’s your mindscape.”

We tend to blame others, blame conditions, or situations. We look towards something external to blame for our problems; why we are not successful, rich or happy.

“Oh, I didn’t get around to doing that report today, people just kept coming into my office.”

“Why does that always happen to ME?”

“How come I just can’t lose weight?”

It’s not your job.

It’s not your friends.

It’s not your family.

It’s not the media.

It’s not the economy.

It’s not the guy that cut you off on the highway this morning.

It’s not because you’re a Virgo.

It’s not because you live an a cardboard box.

It’s YOU! How you live on the inside affects how you live on the outside. If YOU want to live the life you want, then YOU must make it happen.

When something doesn’t go your way, ask…

“How did I make that happen? What can i do differently next time?”

Remember this formula: E+R=O…Event plus Response equals Outcome.

Be honest with yourself and others.

Take 100% responsibility for your life.

“The wind cannot move a mountain.”

“Ninety-nine percent of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses.”
-George Washington Carver

Thanks for reading.

This message is especially dedicated to the great Kate Fehn.

Below is a letter I received yesterday…

To Whom It May Concern,

Ed Tseng came to the Jackson Mann School in October 2007 to address our boys basketball team. He shared many performance strategies during the hour-long meeting, and received enthusiastic and energetic responses from the team. Ed captured and held their attention not by lecture, but through a diverse array of techniques, such as: a magic trick, visual aids, a video, stories, quotes, and activities.

As the basketball coach of a Boston Public School, it was wonderful to see the team engaged and mesmerized by Ed’s presentation, especially when they realized that the strategies Ed suggested would translate to success in the classroom as well as on the court. In talking with some members of the team and hearing reports from their teachers, I see a sense of hope and optimism from them, as they have taken Ed’s messages to heart and applied his strategies to basketball, school, and life.

As a coach and teacher I am grateful for Ed’s visit. As one of my 7th grade players told me the other day when he saw that I was having a rough day, “Remember what Ed told us Mr. Cohen…you’ve gotta bounce back up when you’re feeling low! High energy!” This statement came from a student who, until recently, had been one of my biggest discipline problems. Thank you Ed.

Sincerely,

A. Cohen
Boys Basketball Coach
6th Grade ELA Teacher

“It’s not about what you expect to get, it’s all about what you expect to give. “

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Today’s message is especially dedicated to the great Patricia Omoqui.

Butch Lumpkin was born gifted, but we were ALL born gifted.

Butch is a great golfer.

Butch is a great tennis player.

Butch has no arms.

Did I tell you that Butch also TEACHES tennis?

Watch the video below and you will never complain about your golf or tennis game again.

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This message is especially dedicated to the great Kim Henchinski.

You can call it networking.

You can call it connecting.

You can TRY to achieve success on your own…

but you won’t be able to do it.

You see, if you ask all of the successful people in the world how they became successful, if they are honest with you, they will give you a list of people. They may talk about their team or mentors, perhaps their parents or friends. If you really think about it, EVERYTHING that you have came from others…your ipod, your house, your car, even your body.

Before I started Tennis Solutions, I didn’t network much; definitely not outside of the tennis industry. Then, once TS was formed, I began networking with anyone and everyone; networking became a way of life as I attended networking meetings and events, sought out experts…I even network at the grocery store now.

Had I not networked, I definitely would not be where I am today. I wouldn’t have a blog, I wouldn’t have make connections with some of the greatest experts in the world or attended the Princeton Sports Symposium yesterday at the University. I was basically networking, connecting with some of the most influential people in the sports industry; there were presidents and CEOs of major companies, sports writers, agents for professional athletes, and even a life coach. I spoke briefly to the key people (I did my homework) that I wanted to meet and even some attendees that were quite interesting. I told them about what I do and my ideas and many of them said that they would like to hear more. As I ALWAYS do after an event, I will be emailing all of them after I finish my blog entry. And then I will stand out even more…why? Because they gave out hundreds of business cards, but I will be one of the few that follows up the next day. All I do is tell them that it was a pleasure meeting with them and mention something we spoke about. From there, I try to arrange a meeting, face-to-face with them.

When you seek out the top people in the industry, and form a connection with them, then you have power. This works because all the top people know each other and if one of them likes you, you’re in. Then THEIR network becomes YOUR network. Regarding the people who are not as well known…you never know who THEY know, even if they cannot help you directly. You see, most people just try to connect with people they think can help them, but that mindset is limiting you from a sea of people.

The other thing about networking is that you should offer to help them out first, or give them a piece of advice, perhaps just a compliment will do. When you help others, they will be more willing to help you out in the future. You will stand out from all the other people who just connect when they need something.

So if you want to get to the next level, start connecting with people; tell them about what you do, your goals and type of people you’d like to meet. It’s called selective focus; when you start concentrating on a specific thing or topic, you start meeting the right people, the right books start coming into your life, you see articles in the newspaper, etc.

Nobody’s going to ring your doorbell and hand you success, you need to take the action yourself and start CREATING your future.

Thanks for reading.